For a long time, I thought I was behind.

Behind the coaches who were louder.
Behind the strategies that worked for everyone else.
Behind the version of me I thought I was supposed to be by now.

But I’ve learned something that changed everything:

I’m not behind.
I’m becoming.

When I first stepped into coaching and NLP, I didn’t know where to start.
I just knew one thing—I wanted to create impact.

So I did what many people do when they feel stuck:
I found someone who had what I wanted, and I modeled her.
Not to become a copy, but to understand what was possible. She reminded me of the Hermit tarot card. Just providing me enough light to see part of the way, but not all of it. 
Life coaching and NLP taught me how to intuitively model - to study alignment, not just strategy.

Through that, I began to find my voice.
And when I started listening to what I truly wanted—everything began to fall into place.

That’s how Matrix Coaching & Training came to life.

It felt like the blocks of my life were collapsing—but in the best way.
Like the walls I’d built to stay safe were finally coming down.

It reminded me of The Matrix—the moment when you realize the world you’ve been living in doesn’t fit anymore,
because something deeper is waking up.

From there, I created my Leaders Matrix Leadership program, with The Visionary Code, The Performance Code and The Mastery Code.
Then came Aligned Impact—my professional speaking identity.

It wasn’t forced.
It wasn’t pushed.
It was aligned.

I used to build based on what others were doing.
Now, I build from congruency.
And I didn’t even know that word until coaching showed it to me.

Now?
It’s my compass.
If something doesn’t feel aligned in my body, it doesn’t belong in my business.

The people I work with? They’re like I was.

✨ They feel stuck in one or more areas—career, relationships, mindset, or personal growth.
✨ They know something needs to shift but don’t know what to do first.
✨ They’re afraid to change—because they only know what they know.

And I get it.
Because I’ve been there.
I help people find clarity, trust themselves again, and move forward with courage and aligned action.

This blog isn’t about being polished.
It’s about being real.
It’s about honoring the stuck moments as "starting points"—not failures.
It’s about leading with truth, not trends.

If you’re reading this and you feel like you’re behind—
Let me say this clearly:

You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.

And if you’re willing to trust that voice inside you—the one that’s been whispering for years—
I’ll walk beside you while you rebuild from alignment.

You don’t have to do it alone.

— Selina